Honestly, I’m not sure that I believe the saying, “everything happens for a reason.” I suppose I could argue both sides. Maybe every single thing that happens is indeed part of a divine plan. Maybe sometimes shit just happens. *shrug* I do believe though that everyone you meet brings something valuable to your life.
Everyone you meet brings a lesson. Sometimes, the lesson is welcome; sometimes you really could have done without it. Sometimes you can see the value they bring in the moment; sometimes you have to reflect on it long after the fact. Lessons of love, forgiveness, gratitude, behaviors to emulate, behaviors to avoid, even some handy tips - all learned from the people around us.
From the people closest to me to random strangers, I have to say I’ve been very fortunate to receive some pretty great lessons. For example, I am grateful for:
- My best boss ever, who taught me to be collaborative and kind. He taught me that a manager’s job is to make others successful.
- My worst boss ever, who taught me that there are more important things than money. Thanks to his despicable behavior, I learned that being a dick may make you rich and upwardly mobile, but who needs that if you’re living your life as a dick? Life is too short for that nonsense.
- My husband, who teaches me have fun and not to take myself so seriously. He taught me that it is safe to trust. He taught me that I am capable of and worthy of deep love.
- My babies, who teach me everyday that I am not perfect, but that that’s completely fine.
- That high school boyfriend who hit me. He taught me to make decisions that honor me. He taught me that you teach people how to treat you.
- My neighbors, who teach me the deep power of taking care of each other.
- All the mean girls I’ve encountered. They taught me that I’m stronger than I thought and that my opinion matters more to me than theirs.
- Even the gentleman in line behind me at the bagel shop yesterday. He reminded me that a smile and a “Good morning!” can change the trajectory of your day.
From huge, life-altering lessons to little reminders - every friend, every mentor, every client, every doctor, every cashier, every single interaction with another human being brings me something.
My job is simply to notice.
This is why I adore the work I do with Demanding Joy and why I love, love, love this community. Thanks for being a part of it!